WTF Wednesday : Pat
Pat is a strong man’s man, loving, thoughtful, proactive, decent, respectful, a fiction reader extraordinaire, cowboy, ranch hand, cyclist, innkeeper, boater, golfer, swimmer, health guru and all around fix it man.
He is a husband, father, grandfather and a real estate broker who is expert at appreciating and enjoying life.
In the Beginning
I first met Pat at his home when I was dating my husband and I was struck at how my husband looked and acted like his father. I figured that if they were so alike that my husband would probably turn out to be a lot like his Dad as he got older. So I sat and watched Pat those early days and once I got to know him I realized that if my husband turned out to be anything like his dad then I would be a very happy woman.
Pat was the first and only cowboy I have ever met. I was so interesting to hear of his vacations where he worked as a real ranch hand and I remember him showing off his new saddle for his next trip to the ranch in Wyoming.
I found out that this family was all about cottages. It seemed that Pat really enjoyed buying, fixing and then selling cottages. I had no idea that this could be a hobby for some families. Even though the cottage was 5 hours away we took advantage of it as often as we could each summer. The unique part of cottaging with this family is that they liked “boat access only” cottages. So that meant that Pat had to boat into the main dock to pick us up to bring us out to the cottage which took at least 20 minutes and lots of gas I am sure. Not only were we taxied to and fro every weekend but since I am Catholic I really needed to get to mass on Sundays. Pat without hesitation offered to taxi me in then drive me to the church, wait for me, then taxi me all the way back. I still can’t thank him enough for being so generous as to support me with this very important and spiritual part of my life.
Pat being such a good Father in Law, willing gives advice when it is called for. I will never forget when we went grocery shopping (when I was a young mother of 2 toddlers) and I decided to just leave the shopping cart next to the car instead of returning it to the cart area. Pat looked at me with raised eyebrows and curiously asked “What had happened to me? Hint, hint! I got his very short but clear point right away and returned the cart. That moment has stuck with me for the past 10 years and I apply it to my life all the time. Whatever we do or don’t do effects everyone around us.
Vacation and Pat are two words that should be synonymous because if we are going on vacation then he is either helping with our kids or taking care of our dog or we are joining him at the condo in Florida, or a rented cottage in the Muskokas or Disney World for lots of fun.
As I said before, my husband is like his Dad and so when we decided to leave for a months vacation in Europe, Pat easily agreed to take the dog and drive us to the airport so we could leave our car at their home while we were gone. To top off his generosity he emailed us in Europe and asked if we wanted him to take our car and get it fully tuned up and find new tires for it. This was a huge aggravation for me that he just simply took care of without any fanfare. This example is just one of many thoughtful things that Pat consistently does for all of us since I have known him. Lucky us.
University of Pat
1. Work hard but smart.
2. Take time to relax.
3. Enjoy life and don’t take it for granted.
4. Taking vacations must be a priority.
5. Be respectful of others no matter what you are doing.
6. There is a song that fits almost everything you are doing and Pat can sing it.
Thinking up an adventure was so easy because I have been wishing for this since I met Pat. We would go to the ranch in Wyoming for a couple of weeks and I would work as a real ranch hand. After a week of training we would head out on an authentic cattle drive across the plains on horseback. We would work from sunup till sundown and then sit out by a fire eating cowboy food and maybe even have some ice cream for dessert cause this is a fantasy right?